“Love empowers us to live fully and die well. Death becomes, then, not an end to life but a part of living.”

 ― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions 

Let’s craft a ceremony together that, when you look back on it in years to come, you still feel good about it deep in your bones. 

Whether a funeral, memorial, life transition or another significant ending, I want you to have a meaningful, unique ceremony that honours life in all its weirdness, wonder and complexity.  A ceremony that can honour life’s realities; that will not gloss over the cracks but might, when appropriate, let the light shine through them. 

I’m a fully qualified independent celebrant but, honestly, I don’t think that term does true justice to the role, nor the depths of what a funeral can really be – it’s not always just a ‘celebration of life’, though there might be facets of joy in what we build together. 

 

Facing death and finding yourself with the responsibility of crafting a fitting ending for a loved one can feel tough and intimidating. When we work together I bring over 15 years of working in mental health services as a trainer, facilitator and coach. Over that time I have gathered many skills in working with people at challenging times in their lives and creating spaces to come together to express and share difficult times in warmth and safety.

I relish witnessing people gathering to share meaningful moments with one another. I value creativity, community and collaboration and will place these front and centre when we work together.

I also draw from a rich cauldron of influences that support and inform my work: local folklore and seasonal rites, UK free party and protest counter culture, community organising and resilience building.

What to expect when you work with me: 

The process can be really organic and I’m happy to work in a way that feels most comfortable for you and your family. We’ll usually meet at a time and place that’s convenient for us both to discuss the ceremony and to start putting some plans together. I will be there to gently guide you through any decisions you need to make and support you by listening to your wishes for the ceremony; learning about whether your person had any particular requests or beliefs that you want to honour and inviting you to share with me more about them and their history so that we can start crafting a ceremony that truly reflects their spirit. 

I am comfortable working alongside your chosen funeral director and I also have experience of working with families who choose to take a more DIY approach. 

Once we’ve got a good idea of all the elements we want to weave together, I’ll write a draft script of the ceremony and then send it to you for your edits and additions if you would like me to. Equally, we might want to co-write it together. Once we have a draft, we can go back and forth a few times depending on how much time we have, until we get something that fits just right. 

I’ll be there on the day to facilitate the ceremony. I can take the lead or step into the background – whichever is required at the time. 

Fees and availability:

I’m available for funerals and memorials across Bristol and the South West. I am also really interested in supporting and facilitating ceremonies for other significant endings and transitions. 

My fees are aligned with those set by Bristol local alternative funeral directors and start at £250 for a ceremony at a crematorium and £350 for an alternative venue. Travel expenses and additional fees for an extra location will be discussed if needed. Fees for ceremonies marking other endings can be discussed. 

If this all sounds good to you, please drop me a line via the contact page or email hello@lottierandomly.com and I’ll get back to you so we can arrange a time to chat. 

There’s never any pressure to work with me by arranging a chat and I’d encourage you to speak to a few celebrants anyway before you make a decision about who to go with.

I highly recommend Lottie if you are looking for a sensitive and wise celebrant who is able to hold you through one of the most difficult times, while skilfully helping you to build a ceremony that perfectly suits your needs.

Thank you Lottie, you are an incredibly sensitive and skilled practitioner. You offered gentle support and guidance, helping my family to navigate this most difficult task, which resulted in the making of a beautifully co-created service that was perfectly fitting. Our family is very touched by the unique nature of the service, which was delivered with a very light touch but that left a very powerful impression on us all. Your words were wisely chosen and the beautiful, magical energy that was woven that day will stay with us forever. We couldn’t have asked for any more.

Ceinwen Birrell, Art Psychotherapist

Lottie was incredible. From our first call, they delved straight into organising and worked well with the undertakers and crematorium to create a ceremony that was right for us.

I felt really held during the process of organising my mum’s funeral, nothing felt rushed or pressured, making a stressful time that much easier to deal with.
Lottie went to great lengths to write a deeply heartfelt and personal eulogy, it was honest and raw and what my mum would have appreciated. My family still now remark on how powerful it was.
Chantal Baptiste